ff

REALLY?! REEEEALLY?!! i love these two. and i do not love this asshat:

ugh forever, benoit. you're a real piece of douchebag. and while we're talking women and sport...

happy friday, strong ass bitches.

ff

THIS WOMAN!!!

 

this is a something. i cried happy tears at my desk, just a few.

happy friday, maybe even. hope, maybe.

ff

{gif credit to chris ritter for buzzfeed}

hey podkids. hi! so: just go listen to every single episode of another round. there are only six so far. you will be so sad that there are only six. it is so good, heben & tracy are the greatest.

okay bye! happy friday, earbuds.

ff

ALL THE THINGS! there's a song there. check it out, it has great horn-bits.

too busy running and dancing and working and making jokes and making plans, i have been neglecting this here blorg. just gonna throw all the various bits i had drafted to post and then didn't. lots to read, lots and lots woooo!

* gloria steinem quote

* kerry washington speech

* how to uphold white supremacy by focusing on diversity and inclusion

* for whose protection

* this is what the fashion industry thinks diversity looks like

* THIS BOOK LOOKS SO GOOD I WANT TO GET IT FOR EVERYONE aka illustrated feminist heroes abcs

* why i only read books by women in 2013 (hey i'm doing that this year!)

okay greatjob! i have a thing in my brain that i'm stoked about. shhhh. i'll tell y'all about it. soon.

happy friday!

ff

 

who's that girl?! she's robyn, duh!! AHHHH my girl, i love her so.

* robyn launches festival promoting women in technology

BECAUSE ROBOTS!!!

and since we're in a good mood today, let's roll on with that vibe. sometimes it is nice to look at things that are done right.

* 9 things 'glee' did right

happy friday, fembots!

ff

hey!! this is some great stuff happening in my province, i'm so glad! (i don't wanna brag, but, like, a similarly great campaign happened in alberta when i was there, so, you know, my presence seems to be good for a place... you're welcome, ontario.) for real, it is bonkers how excited this shiz gets me, as if this shouldn't be STANDARD ISSUE EVERYWHERE by now. aaaannnnyway. great. kathleen wynne, yes good. thank you.

and some ff links on the topic of devil's advocate. (spoiler alert: just don't, asshatt)

{juliana britto schwartz for feministing.com}

* an open letter to the privileged people who play devil's advocate

* for the sake of argument

* no more devil's advocate

and finally, happy friday, pizzas!

 {my friends are hiiiiilarious}

 

ff

ALL OF THE LINKS!
or at least many of the links. lots and lots to read this week.

* stop blaming women for holding themselves back

* the world is listening

* the road to structural erasure is paved with well-intentioned white ladies

* these are apple's new, diverse emoji

* teen charged with raping fellow student told police he was 're-enacting' fifty shades of grey
(big time trigger warning)

ABOUT THAT LAST LINK:
50 shades of grey didn't cause this assault. but it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help dismantle the world of rape culture and the dehumanization of women. it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help women gain power and autonomy over their bodies and their lives. it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help men understand consent. if you already live in a world where you don't believe that women can or will tell you what they want (bluuuurred lines, amirite?), where you already feel you are owed things from women, 50 shades of grey is just another thing whispering (or shouting...) 'it's cool, bro. she wants it. you just gotta show her...'. 50 shades of grey didn't cause this truly heinous and horrifying assault. but it joined on in with everything else that was already cheering this asshole on, and it gave him a high-five and a douchey smile and said 'yeah, man. alright!'

* i dated christian grey

okee bye, happy friday!

ff

it has been a long week. fuck off february. just. go see 'still alice'. spoiler alert: i'm now in love with kristen stewart. first movie i've liked her in. (except 'panic room', obvi.)

happy friday, familyfamilyfamily, memorylifelove.

ff

{yusor mohammad from deah shaddy barakat's vine}

you do not shoot and kill a person because you had an argument about parking. you shoot and kill a person because of hatred. racism, sexism, hatred. you kill a person because you do not respect their humanity.

{yusor mohammad, deah shaddy barakat, razan mohammad abu-salha - images from facebook by way of thenation.com}

yusor, deah and razan were shot and killed this week. and it wasn't because of an argument about parking.

* the most common type of american terrorist is a white man with a weapon and a grudge

and. speaking of grudges, male anger...

* why do women play these games?

 

 

 

 

(ooooooo)

(sezzzzzy)

(stalking!)

(bullying!)

* 50 shades of attempting to pass abuse off as romance - images from the sixth siren of pandora

what's that there? consent! or the disturbing lack of it in 50 shades of grey, ew, ew, ew, please please don't support this movie or book, ew, come on. i have nothing at all against erotica or bdsm, but this isn't it. i hate it so much, so much, so much. not to mention it is shitty writing... just in general.

* advice to nsfw fic writes and novelists now that fifty shades of grey is a movie

BUT HERE IS A HAPPINESS LINK!!

* 10 trans women of color in love

happy friday, palentines and galentines! 

ff

can we just take a moment to appreciate this moment of rihanna brilliance:

 

{spirit animal ri-ri gawd she's so cool}

 

and we have no more days till friday!!

 



 

okay. linkstown:

* questions for men

* why i'm fighting for girls who want to play football

* scotus thinks that firing women for breastfeeding isn't discrimination

please know that as i am writing this i am receiving unsolicited dickpics on instagram from someone i went to gradschool with. whut, even?! why would you... i don't even... okay. okay bye.

happy friday, the internets is forever...

ff

{kate mckinnon, leslie jones, melissa mccarthey, kristen wig}

* new all-female 'ghostbusters' cast chosen

happy dancing, muppet arms, confetti guns, this is gonna freaking rule.

happy friday, ghostbusters! THIS IS AWESOME!!

saved my life (ff, fm)

we are doubling up today - saved my life and feminist monday. i planned on writing a wee bit about björk on friday, but honestly i just soaked in the new album and also the above tove lo song and had all the feels. oh the feels! you guys!! but also: so good. (reminds me a bit of medulla, which is my fave björk - intense close choral-ish harmonies that make me go ooooooof.) now on to the feminism.

{jessica hopper interviewing björk for pitchfork}

* the invisible woman: a conversation with björk

the whole interview is great, but particularly the discussion of women auteurs in music is worth reading.



happy monday, heart breakers and hearts broken.

ff

never surprising. always disappointing.
so sayeth lissa today, and she is right on for this week's feminist friday mood.

{jessica testa for buzzfeed news}

let us begin with: fuck off, rolling stone & harper's bazaar. fuck off and fuck you. you are disgusting and pathetic.

and of course. there is the academy award nominations. you know. the whitest oscars since 1998. in the year of fullerton. or. the praise for complicated white men awards.

let's take a look at the best picture noms.

american sniper - white man is good at shooting stuff
birdman - white man is eccentric
boyhood - white boy becomes white man
the grand budapest hotel -  white man has wacky adventures
*note. it is arguable that a person of colour is the main character, or a main character. so YAY!
the imitation game - white man is good at maths and science
selma - HOLLA!!! ding ding ding! woooooooooo!
the theory of everything - white man is suuuuper good at maths and science
whiplash - white man plays music

okay, so. i'm not saying these are bad movies... i have only seen one of them, but they are almost all high on my wanna-watch list. but. BUT. omg, world. can we make movies about anyone who isn't white and male?! only one of the women nominated for best actress is in one of these films. that's bonkers. i guess they just acted real real good in absolute shit movies. good work, fancy ladies!

AND THEN. of the men nominated for best actor, four of five are from these films. and the fifth is from A MOVIE ABOUT WHITE MEN! whaaaat?! crazy. know who isn't nominated... that's right: the one person of colour leading a movie. so selma is one of the best movies, but the main character is whateves, and it must have directed itself because the WOMAN of colour who directed it got a big fat: nope!

all the best screenplay noms, both original and adapted, are men. every. single. one. cuz women writers ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

it is so remarkable it is almost laughable. almost. except not. just disappointing. and not surprising.

{waterford wispers news}

 

speaking of laughable! hahahahaha it's funny because we are left out of everything, but we're equal, no really, shit is equal, everybody stop complaining, women are like, TOTALLY TREATED EQUAL and are found in equal positions of power!!! stop loooooking for reasons to be offended, ya god damn harpies!

 

happy friday, harpies!

ff

cosby is in my province. i am generally really happy to hear how many people have opted not to go to the shows, or to go and protest.

this morning i listened to a cbc news podcast while getting dressed for work, and i had to laugh a dry-mouthed, sick sad laugh, listening to a recording from last night's london ontario show in which, responding to a heckler who was calling him a rapist, cosby is heard saying 'no, no stop...'...

you know. like maybe a woman having her body assaulted might say to her attacker. like maybe any one of the 26+ women who have come forward about being assaulted by cosby.

you know.

a little on the nose. a little vomit-inducing. apparently he was talking to the audience, telling them not to respond to the heckler, and was not talking to the heckler herself. but. you know. still... those words... that context. ugh.

also there is this absolute gem:

"A few minutes earlier, a woman who got up from one of the front rows and walked past the stage was asked by Cosby where she was going.
When she answered that she was going to the lobby to grab a drink, Cosby responded with: "You have to be careful about drinking around me," which drew loud applause."

{from cbc news, as reported by jeff green}

 

 

HAHAHAHA RAPE JOKES! we especially love them from people who are rapists! that's when they're the most resonant and hiiiiilarious, am i right? like: meta. or whatever.

 

all y'all who attended the shows for, you know, the comedy and fun: i could've sworn we were believing women now... remember? remember after ghomeshi? remember when everyone said we were believing women now? oh right, yup, but not when you have to give something up, not when you have to lose an idol, oh right, now i remember. colour me not surprised. colour me fucking tired of it.

 

happy friday, enjoy the jokes.

ff

hi. all i wanna do is listen to rihanna and an orchestra.

but also, there are things to read about wearing makeup like a deviant. pour it up, pour it up:

* how to be a ladyperson at the holidays

but all of this is really just to make you happy before you watch this next video. because this one hurts. it is powerful as hell. all we wanna do is take the chains off.



that's all for today, then.

ff

here is a thing that is not the worst.

{legits the best thing}

alanah pearce is a game journalist who contacts the moms of internet boys who send her rape threats. and alanah pearce is friggin great. all the cheering and jazz handing for alanah pearce.

happy friday, don't forget you have a mom.

ff

 {photo & tweet from dante barry}

 

* from michael brown to assata shakur, the racist state of america persists - angela davis 

{angela davis in the guardian}

 

and also:





 

* what ferguson means for black women - chaedria labourier

 

{...}

 {chaedria labourier in elle}

 

(i am so glad to be seeing a piece like that in a major fashion magazine. it is what i hope for but not what i expect.)

 

this has been a very hard week. spread the voices of those at the front of this movement. please please let it have an effect.

ff

can't talk now, euggie's 30th birthday, byyyyyyyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeee!!!







happy friday, HAPPIER BUUURRRRRRTHDAAAAAAYYYY!

ff

a friend texted me yesterday, while i was out running work errands, that he was crying over the sentencing in the rehtaeh parsons case.

 

remember her? rehtaeh. we aren't supposed to use her name. remember? remember how well reporting went for her? remember that there was a photograph of her rape, and still she was blamed and shamed and doubted and mocked? remember how cruel the world was to her? remember how she did not survive it? remember how we grieved when she died?

 



{rehtaeh's father, delivering the victim impact statement yesterday as reported by the cbc}

'why wouldn't a person report an assault?'
'we are having a watershed moment!'

{amanda hess writes on rehtaeh for slate.com}

i don't know what justice would look like, exactly. i don't. but i know this isn't it. i don't like prison as a catch-all. but i want something. i want something better than this. a system that rips a girl to shreds when she has already been broken apart.

the system is broken. the system is sick and rotting at its core.

'why wouldn't a person report an assault?'
'we are having a watershed moment!'

forgive me if i am not a believer. forgive me if i am too tired, even, to cry for her again. and for the ones who never got brought out into the public eye, whose assaults stayed 'community matters', who will never even come close to this non-justice-justice, to being heard and believed and cared for.

happy friday, don't forget.

ff (nope)

2tired2blorg.

i got my ticket to the opening night of the mockingjay. so. instead. here:



happy friday, tributes.