Friday, February 27, 2015


or at least many of the links. lots and lots to read this week.

* stop blaming women for holding themselves back

* the world is listening

* the road to structural erasure is paved with well-intentioned white ladies

* these are apple's new, diverse emoji

* teen charged with raping fellow student told police he was 're-enacting' fifty shades of grey
(big time trigger warning)

50 shades of grey didn't cause this assault. but it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help dismantle the world of rape culture and the dehumanization of women. it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help women gain power and autonomy over their bodies and their lives. it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help men understand consent. if you already live in a world where you don't believe that women can or will tell you what they want (bluuuurred lines, amirite?), where you already feel you are owed things from women, 50 shades of grey is just another thing whispering (or shouting...) 'it's cool, bro. she wants it. you just gotta show her...'. 50 shades of grey didn't cause this truly heinous and horrifying assault. but it joined on in with everything else that was already cheering this asshole on, and it gave him a high-five and a douchey smile and said 'yeah, man. alright!'

* i dated christian grey

okee bye, happy friday!

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Monday, February 23, 2015

saved my life

although i LOVED the 'everything is awesome' performace, and patricia arquette's speech, and graham moore's speech, i gotta give, hands down, best performance and moment of the oscars to 'glory'.

and sorry to my ladies (holla emma stone, lupita nyong'o), best dressed goes to david oyelowo in that red get-up, sir that is some fierce dressing.

happy monday, dapper dans.

Friday, February 20, 2015


it has been a long week. fuck off february. just. go see 'still alice'. spoiler alert: i'm now in love with kristen stewart. first movie i've liked her in. (except 'panic room', obvi.)

happy friday, familyfamilyfamily, memorylifelove.

Thursday, February 19, 2015