today i read

{bijan stephen on medium}

* The Talk

(this one deserves very much the capital letters i so rarely use here.)
(and doesn't that fear sound like the fear you have felt being a woman alone in an elevator, cab, bar, boy's home, street, etc etc etc. i find it comforting, though sad, to feel as though i can have some level of connectedness to this pain and fear. that we can share some small solidarity.)

today i read

 

{sara benincasa for human parts at medium}

* stick around

find the thing that helps you stick around. flowers. trees. when things are okay, the list can be a million times longer, but when things are not okay, a list of one or two... it can be enough. it could be.

recently i added: books. if one option is to not be here, and another option is to quit everything and read books in bed for the rest of forever, forsaking all other things (except, of course, flowers, dogs)... i'm just saying... it is an idea.

ff

"Was it really that difficult for you to imagine what Erin's point was, did you not even try, or did you actively not want to understand her?"

just wanted to start things off today with that there quote from a much longer post by an internet-friend of mine, taking to task a jackass who was all concern-troll-y .this internet-friend has proven to be insanely patient and pointed with concern-trolls or full-on-trolls et al. thank you, internet-friend, for being able to have these conversations over and over. i had just looked at the string of absurdities and assholeries and tapped right on out - i am too tired. i have zero desire to try to teach someone something they are actively being ignorant about. cheers to those who keep on keepin' on. lord knows it ain't easy. you make the world better. you make me a little less tired. a little more hopeful.

now! onwards to readings. lots of good stuff for you this week. check it:

{a true (illustrated) story by ariel schrag}

* the ping-pong theory of tech sexism

 

**trigger warning on these next two**

 

 

 

 

{anonymous for the nib} 

 

* trigger warning: breakfast

 

 

{from 'prey' written by kathleen hale for hazlitt}

 

* prey

 

on that last one there... it is a stunningly beautiful piece of writing, i think. it isn't a fun read, of course, it isn't an easy read. but, oh, it is something profoundly moving. it is a well-crafter work. if we must read these stories - and as long as the statistics are what they are i feel that we must - let them all be this honest, let them all cut this deeply.

 

happy friday, all of us playing dead on our backs.



today i read

a new thing i'm gonna do here! pick the best thing i read from my collecting things-to-be-read-aka-instapaper. and then tell you. the blorg. what it is. in case you wanna read it. too. it is like today-in-tabs except instead of summarizing all the things i will not summarize and only give you one thing. and i won't email it to you. you'll have to come get it. here. but. you know. you get it. (i'll have original content again for you one day... one day.)

today i read:

the racism beat - what it's like to write about hate over and over and over
by cord jefferson