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{yusor mohammad from deah shaddy barakat's vine}

you do not shoot and kill a person because you had an argument about parking. you shoot and kill a person because of hatred. racism, sexism, hatred. you kill a person because you do not respect their humanity.

{yusor mohammad, deah shaddy barakat, razan mohammad abu-salha - images from facebook by way of thenation.com}

yusor, deah and razan were shot and killed this week. and it wasn't because of an argument about parking.

* the most common type of american terrorist is a white man with a weapon and a grudge

and. speaking of grudges, male anger...

* why do women play these games?

 

 

 

 

(ooooooo)

(sezzzzzy)

(stalking!)

(bullying!)

* 50 shades of attempting to pass abuse off as romance - images from the sixth siren of pandora

what's that there? consent! or the disturbing lack of it in 50 shades of grey, ew, ew, ew, please please don't support this movie or book, ew, come on. i have nothing at all against erotica or bdsm, but this isn't it. i hate it so much, so much, so much. not to mention it is shitty writing... just in general.

* advice to nsfw fic writes and novelists now that fifty shades of grey is a movie

BUT HERE IS A HAPPINESS LINK!!

* 10 trans women of color in love

happy friday, palentines and galentines! 

today i read

{denise balkisson}

today? today is anger. (anger is always, if i'm thinking about it. some days i manage not to and then they are not angry. but today is. raging.)

just a minute ago i wrote on facebook:

tired of the ghomeshi shit? too bad. some people have been tired for a long time.
this piece gets, so well, into the rage that i am scared of in myself, that i don't know what to do with. wasn't ray rice a watershed moment? and before him, and before and before and before...

* sorry, we haven't reached a 'watershed' on violence against women

(also. news stories i listened to last week calling the death of two rcmp officers the worst murders in canada's history - not that their deaths aren't awful, but how 'bout the more than 26 women victims of pickton? i can't i can't i can't.)

and this quote, from sue chapman on cbc world at six news, november 3rd. she was asked, about women coming forward with abuse allocations:

as a former prosecutor, what would you say to women as they were expressing these concerns? what would you say to them at the time?

SC: I would explain to them fairly and fully what the issues were, but quite honestly I would also say to them that it’s very much in the public interest that they proceed with the case.  That they be prepared to cooperate and take the years that is [sic] necessary to pursue a prosecution. But privately in my own mind I would often think, however, if you were my sister, I’d tell you to go home now.

emphasis mine.

just think about that for a while.

(i've transcribed the whole interview, if you aren't able to listen to it via the link above. i'm happy to share.)

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{leslie morgan steiner for ted}

* good news for abuse victims in massachusetts

"Now, if he makes a threat, Massachusetts has the power to escalate. If he uses visitation time to attack her or her children, Massachusetts restricts visitation. Now he's the one who has to make his decisions with the understanding that someone with power can further restrict his movements and his ability to live freely. Abusers often victimize for years before taking things to the level of a serious beating or murder. By restricting movements in the early stages, it appears that the program helps keep abusers from getting to that point."

{amanda marcotte for slate magazine}

that's it for today. keeping it short since this is for sure a heavy theme.

happy friday, lovelies.