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hey!! this is some great stuff happening in my province, i'm so glad! (i don't wanna brag, but, like, a similarly great campaign happened in alberta when i was there, so, you know, my presence seems to be good for a place... you're welcome, ontario.) for real, it is bonkers how excited this shiz gets me, as if this shouldn't be STANDARD ISSUE EVERYWHERE by now. aaaannnnyway. great. kathleen wynne, yes good. thank you.

and some ff links on the topic of devil's advocate. (spoiler alert: just don't, asshatt)

{juliana britto schwartz for feministing.com}

* an open letter to the privileged people who play devil's advocate

* for the sake of argument

* no more devil's advocate

and finally, happy friday, pizzas!

 {my friends are hiiiiilarious}

 

ff

ALL OF THE LINKS!
or at least many of the links. lots and lots to read this week.

* stop blaming women for holding themselves back

* the world is listening

* the road to structural erasure is paved with well-intentioned white ladies

* these are apple's new, diverse emoji

* teen charged with raping fellow student told police he was 're-enacting' fifty shades of grey
(big time trigger warning)

ABOUT THAT LAST LINK:
50 shades of grey didn't cause this assault. but it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help dismantle the world of rape culture and the dehumanization of women. it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help women gain power and autonomy over their bodies and their lives. it sure as fuck didn't do anything to help men understand consent. if you already live in a world where you don't believe that women can or will tell you what they want (bluuuurred lines, amirite?), where you already feel you are owed things from women, 50 shades of grey is just another thing whispering (or shouting...) 'it's cool, bro. she wants it. you just gotta show her...'. 50 shades of grey didn't cause this truly heinous and horrifying assault. but it joined on in with everything else that was already cheering this asshole on, and it gave him a high-five and a douchey smile and said 'yeah, man. alright!'

* i dated christian grey

okee bye, happy friday!

ff

{yusor mohammad from deah shaddy barakat's vine}

you do not shoot and kill a person because you had an argument about parking. you shoot and kill a person because of hatred. racism, sexism, hatred. you kill a person because you do not respect their humanity.

{yusor mohammad, deah shaddy barakat, razan mohammad abu-salha - images from facebook by way of thenation.com}

yusor, deah and razan were shot and killed this week. and it wasn't because of an argument about parking.

* the most common type of american terrorist is a white man with a weapon and a grudge

and. speaking of grudges, male anger...

* why do women play these games?

 

 

 

 

(ooooooo)

(sezzzzzy)

(stalking!)

(bullying!)

* 50 shades of attempting to pass abuse off as romance - images from the sixth siren of pandora

what's that there? consent! or the disturbing lack of it in 50 shades of grey, ew, ew, ew, please please don't support this movie or book, ew, come on. i have nothing at all against erotica or bdsm, but this isn't it. i hate it so much, so much, so much. not to mention it is shitty writing... just in general.

* advice to nsfw fic writes and novelists now that fifty shades of grey is a movie

BUT HERE IS A HAPPINESS LINK!!

* 10 trans women of color in love

happy friday, palentines and galentines! 

ff

{leslie morgan steiner for ted}

* good news for abuse victims in massachusetts

"Now, if he makes a threat, Massachusetts has the power to escalate. If he uses visitation time to attack her or her children, Massachusetts restricts visitation. Now he's the one who has to make his decisions with the understanding that someone with power can further restrict his movements and his ability to live freely. Abusers often victimize for years before taking things to the level of a serious beating or murder. By restricting movements in the early stages, it appears that the program helps keep abusers from getting to that point."

{amanda marcotte for slate magazine}

that's it for today. keeping it short since this is for sure a heavy theme.

happy friday, lovelies.