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hey other person! you're doing feminism wrong! let me tell you how you're doing it wrong. you're the worst. feminism is one woman winning at being feminist best and all other women suuucking at it, the end!

or so go the arguments lately. who is winning feminism and who is the worstest. can we work on that? can we work on an inclusive feminism? please? okay cool. thanks. i like your ideas! maybe they are better than mine! maybe they're not better, just different. maybe i can learn from them. and vice versa. whaddaya say?! fun, right?! cool. cooooool.

there have been a few 'this person is a good feminist and you can tell cause all these other feminists are actually terrible' pieces around. and the one i'mma link to is actually pretty gentle, and probably even has an okayish point in there. but. well:

* miley cyrus is 'one of the biggest feminists in the world'

yeah, that's a little laughable maybe... maybe miley's grasp of the feminist movement isn't totally spot on perfect. reductive and dismissive, maybe. probably. she's young or whatever. privileged. but know what i didn't hear in her quotes that the article seems to be picking at? that miley cyrus thinks she is the QUEEN feminist. 'one of' she says. not 'THE biggest feminist'... see the difference there?

miley's quote doesn't point to malala yousafzai moving over. they can BOTH be feminists! what?! i know, right? nutso. and guess what: malala yousafzai ain't a perfect feminist either. cause there is no such thing! malala is awesome. super awesome. and young, too. so she'll probably make mistakes as she grows into an awesome feminist woman. and you could argue that malala is better for the world than miley, but that's kinda unfair and dismissive, too. because a pop star who openly and happily calls herself a feminist is a GOOD THING. even if she doesn't always do it right. maybe pop-loving young ladies will hear that and wanna be a feminist too. maybe it will start them on a path to becoming awesome members of team feminism. that's not nothin'. (remember that time when a woman was given a big fancy high up position as ceo of yahoo and was all 'i'm not a feminist' cause feminism is a bad word, ewwww?) i fall victim to this me vs you mentality of feminism often, and i'm trying trying not to. i will be a better feminist for the trying, i hope, i think.

also. remember this? still love this:

* is __________ a feminist?

and while we're talking pop music and ladies, here's a little something extra for you that was released today, merry feminist friday:



happy friday, all you equals.

atop the winner is the...

THE DARKEST HAIRS!!!

better pictures at some point, but it is BRAND NEW and i wanted you to be the first to know. thanks for all your votes and thoughts! it was pretty close between dark and white, with many a folk believing white hair to feel the most like my natural hair-state. and i kinda agree. in my heart my hair is white. and thus. nay! we could not do that! we need adventure and change and neeeeewwwwwww things. so. a super dark chocolate brown. (red did surprisingly well in the surveying, and i nearly went for it... until mel pointed out that red is super hard to maintain, and toop pointed out that maybe it would be tooooo creepy with sarah and i living together - a ginger-haired horror house!) love you all for playing along. very excited about this hairs. 

winner

guys! i won a blog-giveaway contest! over at myrtle & pearls!!!

tada!!! horsehair keychain of amazing! i can't wait for its arrival. special thanks to emma for introducing me to kate bush's wuthering heights, cause that's how i won. guessing. that song. woooot! BEST FOREVER!

if you are a million jealous, which i know you are, you can buy one for yourself here. they are a steal of a deal, frankly. or you can buy any number of other fantastic things that genevieve made. do it!